You know..... I reckon that everyone thinks or believes that whatever they are doing, is the best option or choice; whether it comes to making a decision or making someone happy. But being human as we are (unfortunate really), those options / choices are purely selfish on its own. I guess the irony is that we always think we're doing it in the best interest of others but ultimately, we are just making life simpler for us. US = U + ME. We, the individuals. Hah! That is an oxymoron as I write. :P Anyway, I digress.....
I guess what I'm trying to say is. FEEL. Not with your head, but listen to your heart (as Roxette would say). Haiyo, damn corny I am today. Sadness! A-N-Y-H-O-W... whatever emotions we feel, there is a little bit of thought into it, the rationalization. And maybe that's the problem. No one feels or takes things straight from the heart anymore. Call it experience, call it hurt, call in fear. We are all afraid to feel pain, we the sadomasochist on earth - afraid. Pain is albeit the greatest teacher of emotions. Nothing strikes a deeper chord nor makes us feel / remember things more than hurt. It's like prodding mice with electric rods and seeing the reaction, or putting a magnifying glass over an ant in the hot sun. We, the masochist, are.
"Mean what you say, say what you mean." Great words. Not practiced. We say what others want to hear, we mean what others will interpret our words to be. I swear, if we were to go on about thinking or anticipating everyone's thoughts, action, reactions... we would never be able to say a single thing. Why? Because we just don't say what we mean to say, what we want to say. It's always good to be mindful of words that could sting. But freedom of expression, of thought, is becoming a rare commodity.
Words aren't alone on this same spectrum. Emotions / actions are dealt in the same way. We no longer show true emotions for they are deemed a weakness in character. My sentiments? SO FREAKIN WHAT? Is it really that wrong to be weak because you love? Give me a fool in love any day, over a fool who doesn't know how to love. Actions speak louder than words and those of us who feel the need to hide that, I truly feel sorry for. The minute you can't be true to your own emotions, you aren't being true to yourself.
Maybe we should all adopt the neorealist approach to foreign policy in our own lives - what matters is the behavior, not the nature. It's what one does, not who we are, that defines us. Actions louder than words? For you... I reckon not.
